Christian Sex Ed: A Book Review

We live in a time where churches do not preach about sex. Young people are not being taught about a biblical way of relationships which causes young Christians to end up broken and with sexual addictions. Dane Fragger, the author of Christian Sex Ed has researched much of the statistics of sexual addictions such as masturbation and pornography. Now when we think about these taboo acts, we mostly think of perverted men. Truth is, women are also in chains with these demonic addictions. 85% of Christians are addicted to pornography according to statistical research done by Dane Fragger. Now the church doesn’t really help because people are ashamed of their actions and are afraid to seek help for fear of being judged and looked upon in a different light.

I read the book within 3 hours due to the way it captivates the reader. (It was actually supposed to be read by a chapter a day) The book is raw and dives straight to the point and it takes no prisoners. I recommend the book as it is designed to set those in bondage free. I was a bit disturbed with the number of times the word ‘sex’ was used in that book but I felt God say: Would you rather let the world teach Christians on a different version of sex? Because that happens every single day. This is the manual of purity. You purchase his book from Amazon.

 

Dane Fragger is the founder of Christian Sex Ed. Ministries. Millions of believers around the world who desire to learn about dating, sex, and sexual purity view his content each month.  Christian Sex Ed: Everything You Need To Know About Sex and Purity.

Over the last couple of years, Dane has been interviewed on national television and by several highly esteemed radio stations and podcasts. He holds a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and is working towards a master’s degree in Biblical Studies. He is also a graduate of Word of Life Bible Institute. Dane has been in ministry for eight years and currently serves as a pastor on staff in Los Angeles, California, where he lives with his beautiful wife, Asia, and lovely daughters, Eliana and Elizabeth.

 

Observe The Sabbath

I have been seeing a lot of scriptures about the Sabbath lately. Many pages stating that church must happen on the seventh day and that we must worship Jesus on Saturday. Stop! You don’t designate one day to worship God. You worship Him every day! The Seventh Day Adventist Church began in the 1830s with the help of Ellen G. White. It was also derived from the Millerites, followers of William Miller who preached that Jesus would return somewhere between March 1843 and March 1844. After twisting scriptures of the book of Daniel, they concluded that Jesus was going to have His second coming on the 22nd of October 1844. Over 100000 people came out to watch the empty sky that night only for it to end with weeping. It became known as the Great Disappointment.

Today, Seventh Day Adventist cook all their food every Friday and they go to church. they spend the whole day at church and eat there. They don’t work on any Saturday because they believe that it is a sin. However, I have come across some that do work because the scriptures say that we must be obedient to their earthly masters. So does the earthly master mean more than the heavenly One?

Is the Sabbath nullified? No. It is still alive. In Matthew 12, Jesus and His disciples were walking through a grain field and they were eating some of the heads of grain. This was considered to be unlawful. By that time, there was a lot of man-made rules. For example:

A woman couldn’t take a grey strand of hair out her head.

You could ride a donkey but couldn’t beat to go faster.

If a beggar came to your window for alms, he had to stretch in to take the money because stretching out to give him anything would break the Sabbath.

Today in Israel, you are not allowed to press the button for the elevator to go up or down. They have automatic elevators that stop a minute at every floor.

Jesus is the Lord of the Sabbath. What does that mean? Jesus is Lord every day. That means the Sabbath is every day! And the rest we have is in Him! Hebrews 4 speaks of a different rest. The rest we have in Jesus. It’s a special type of rest that no one can take away. It’s the type of rest that brings peace and joy. This rest does not come by doing nothing on a Saturday. It comes by spending quality time with Jesus every day.

Hebrews 4:11, Make every effort to enter that rest…

And for those that go to church on Sunday, God did not change the Sabbath to Sunday. no scripture states that. The disciples never sat at home on a Saturday doing nothing. They did what was good on that day. Remember, the Pharisees had a problem with Jesus healing on that day. The disciples went out and preached on that day. Why? Because they knew that all the Jews would be at the synagogue on that day.

You want more proof?

Saturday is named after Saturn, the god of time. Sunday was named after the sun god. Thursday was named after Thor, the god of war. In fact, all the days of the week are named after gods! So which is the Sabbath? How do you know that Saturday is specifically the Sabbath when the days were renamed?

Why did God give us the Sabbath? He knew that our physical bodies need rest because if we overdo it with ourselves, we can get sick. That is why people get sick often. So rest is needed, no doubt. But don’t make it a religion. Rest can be taken any day but spending time with God is something that’s done every day.

Just My Thoughts…

I don’t like this world that we are living in. I don’t know if it’s just me or is there others out there? So much of brokenness around us and what are we doing? Those who complain about this sick world are probably the ones causing the problems or doing nothing about it. We live in a world that will grab a Ferrari at the expense of your bread and butter. Giving is better than taking but no one believes that anymore. We live in a society that aims high, so high that they will trample others to get there. Morals are out the window and what’s left in the room apart from chaos? We think we are good people because of what we have as if we worked for it but did we? We just acted shrewdly to obtain things without batting an eye. That’s the world we live in and sadly some people get into the rat race and they never get out of it. The rat race is when we strive to have a better lifestyle. So we get that car, we get that house, and all the luxuries that you can’t afford because it’s all on credit. Then you have a promotion and you earn more. So what do you do? Because you earn more you decide to upgrade your life. This results in you getting more in debt and you still have no money. So what has changed? Nothing! You still in the same situation, your life hasn’t improved! You still chasing money because of the debts and you still can’t sleep at night. We then compromise our morals because we are afraid of losing our jobs so we will do anything we are told to do. Hence, we are slaves…

Money has destroyed people by its existence and by its absence…

What about the Church? What are they doing? They are also in the system. Are they not? They preach promotion and money and blessings! You hardly hear about Christ and what He has done for you anymore. It’s all about what He can do for you if you pay more tithes. All those people who dress wealthily are handsomely welcomed but if a beggar came in, would they be treated Christlike? I don’t know. They probably would look down on them and think that God was punishing that person for their lack of faith. I remember being in a prosperity church when I was a kid. Everyone looked down on you as if you were a sinner. Strange enough, I probably knew the Bible more than them. I’m not boasting, they were. I remember when a man told my Dad during a meeting that the reason why he was battling financially was that he hardly spent time with God. Strange though, my Dad always had devotion every night. He attended church services religiously but that doesn’t matter, right? I would pray for God to bless me and provide all the things I needed but all I heard was my voice echoing off the ceiling and coming back to me with silence. Where you at God?

Some people treat God like He’s an ATM

‘Draw’ me close to you is what we say to Him

I stopped praying for blessings a long time ago. My good works don’t qualify for God’s grace. Yes, He provides but He gives because of His grace, not because He owes you. Not because you are a Christian. Not because you pay tithes. God is God and He is above all things. He cares for you. I learnt a lot during those times of struggle. It showed me my true friends and sadly, they are extremely few.

 

I wrote a book and wanted to publish it but I didn’t have the finances. I eventually got a job but now I don’t have time to edit it. I don’t have time to write anymore. I got a old laptop that takes long so I can’t do it when I come back from work. I write my poetry free style on the internet. I create these quotes for Instagram but that comes from my thoughts in my head. Sometimes I’m unable to write that thought down and so I forget it, never to return again. I said things to people that made them cry yet on the other side of the world someone is hating me for telling the truth. I encourage one person and then switch to someone who is debating against the Gospel. Atheists, Calvinists and people who believe that I’m too religious. Currently, 32% of my followers say that I’m too judgmental. I guess that’s what they call those who tell the truth. I write poetry for the Church and I know they not going to like it. But the day is coming when I will say what I need to say, and they will have to hear the truth.

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Enough of the past and the present. Let’s go to the future. I’ve been thinking about a lot of the One who I will be spending my life with. I haven’t met her yet and I’m starting to question her existence. It’s hard searching for something rare but it’s even harder waiting for something that you expect to be coming. Especially when the clock is ticking. Many of my friends are already married or are thinking about it. I have never dated before because I’m waiting patiently for the One. People ridicule me, I don’t care but what if she isn’t real? I want a godly woman but it’s hard to see some in my church! I guess my standards are too high or they just succumbed to the status quo of church women? Maybe I’m too religious or self-righteous but I’m not willing to compromise who I am for the sake of infatuation. I’m not saying that these women are low standard but I’m not going to be in a relationship where there is no compatibility.

“Don’t worry Kristian, you will find a nice godly woman who you will marry.”

“Thanks, but I stopped believing in fairytales a long time ago…”

I’m someone with logic. I won’t give it up for emotions. Too many people let down their morals for beauty. But I rather find beauty in someone who leads me to Christ. You would be surprised to find how many people who regret marrying who they are married to right now. They hate men/women and trash talk marriage. I don’t want to end up like that. To marry someone is to dedicate your entire life to that person so you have to make the right decision! If you are interested in someone, don’t go hitting them up over text, they can hide who they are with those emoji’s. Spend time face to face and then you will know who you are dealing with. Because if you are having a relationship over a mobile device, chances are you will one day marry that stranger!

I have to admit that I have like girls in the past. Girls that I had admired or maybe I was just infatuated with but I never pursue them because I knew I wasn’t ready. The question is: How will I know when I am?

I feel in love with someone. Or probably the illusion that I have created in my mind of who she is or will be like. Chances are, my dreams will come true or I’ll be greatly disappointed…

Calvinism #2

In the previous article of Calvinism, I literally tore it apart with logic and scripture. It set some people free but some stubborn Calvinists still don’t get the picture. They are worshipping manmade doctrine. Some of these Calvinists worship their leaders. John Macarthur stated that John Calvin is his hero. Really? These Calvinists are so blinded that they will believe any preacher who is a Calvinist. They don’t read the Bible for themselves. Their interpretation is what others think and not the truth that the Holy Spirit reveals. Oh wait! They don’t believe that Holy Spirit works today because they are cessationist! No healing can take place, no prophecy, not speaking in tongues, nothing! You must just look at what they have said.

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If you are predestined to be saved before the creation of the world, how can you lose your salvation? Makes sense doesn’t it?

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So the blood of Jesus is symbolic? Hmm… so his death wasn’t real? That explains the limited atonement?

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I never knew that all Christians were perfect! No one sins? If they did, they are not saved. If they don’t they a liar!

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Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! You just contradicted yourself pal!

The most logical explanation when it comes to God’s sovereignty and human freedom is Molinism. Luis Molina (1535-1600) stated that God has complete sovereignty and man has complete freedom. God is always in control and humans has free will to a certain degree. For example, you don’t have free will to whether you will die or not. Or whether you will be sick or not. That happens inevitably. But God has extensive knowledge. He knows the future and all the possibilities of it. If X happens then Y will happen…

God made man in His own image. John Calvin decided to return the favour.

So God wills some things for His purpose and plan and other things He allows for it to happen. His purpose and plans will happen but a man has a choice of where he wants to spend eternity.

Let’s look at TULIP.

Total Depravity – This is correct. Man is a slave to sin.

Unconditional Election – Nope. it’s unconditional Love. God loves everyone. John 3:16

Limited Atonement – Utter blasphemy! They say that Jesus’ blood was not enough. Not powerful. Sorry folks, I chose my favourites and the rest goes to hell.

Irresistible Grace – Grace is given to everyone but people can reject it. You can trample it. Hebrew 10:29

Perseverance of the Saints – Why do they need to persevere if they are predestined to heaven? Doesn’t make sense, does it?

 

God is only going to save some? Let’s look at 1 Timothy 4:10

That is why we labour and strive because we have put our hope in the living God, who is the Savior of ALL people, and especially of those who believe.

Scripture states that God is the saviour of all men. Potentially speaking. Not some! Christ came to die for everyone so that they can be saved. Judas may have betrayed Jesus but he could have repented after. the Jews that killed Jesus could have repented too.

Now here’s something you should think about. If you are dead in your sins and cannot choose God because you are dead, then sin is the cause of death right? A Calvinist believes that God chose them to be saved and then raised them to life spiritually. Okay cool. But you still sin right? That means you would be dead again and still a sinner! Sorry, but the theory of Calvinism is wrong. You may be dead in your sins but you still got a choice.

Book Review #2

Young and Saved: Living in a world that’s not like you – Dane Fragger

After seeing the advertisement of this book for so long, I just could not take it any longer. I had to get this book! The title captured my attention every time I saw it. Dane Fragger has really walked boldly into the dark shadows of the grey areas of Christianity. He doesn’t waste time spinning around the bush but deals with the problem at hand. What the church is failing to let the young people know, Dane spreads it out in broad daylight in this book.

If the Church does not teach the young people about sex, the world will do it for us…

Dane has had a dark past with all the mistakes he has made. He has repented and come to the truth of chastity and morality, walking in godliness and holiness. He now strives to get his message across to other young people so that they can avoid destroying themselves and their souls. His testimony is a great story that will teach many that this world is not worth it. AT ALL!

I could see that Dane did not go really in dept wit his past because it would not suitable for young readers. I appreciate that, he gives the message that the youth needs to hear. His theology is 100% and he doesn’t play with the truth.

Excellent read. To purchase Dane Fragger’s book, Click Here

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