Christian Sex Ed: A Book Review

We live in a time where churches do not preach about sex. Young people are not being taught about a biblical way of relationships which causes young Christians to end up broken and with sexual addictions. Dane Fragger, the author of Christian Sex Ed has researched much of the statistics of sexual addictions such as masturbation and pornography. Now when we think about these taboo acts, we mostly think of perverted men. Truth is, women are also in chains with these demonic addictions. 85% of Christians are addicted to pornography according to statistical research done by Dane Fragger. Now the church doesn’t really help because people are ashamed of their actions and are afraid to seek help for fear of being judged and looked upon in a different light.

I read the book within 3 hours due to the way it captivates the reader. (It was actually supposed to be read by a chapter a day) The book is raw and dives straight to the point and it takes no prisoners. I recommend the book as it is designed to set those in bondage free. I was a bit disturbed with the number of times the word ‘sex’ was used in that book but I felt God say: Would you rather let the world teach Christians on a different version of sex? Because that happens every single day. This is the manual of purity. You purchase his book from Amazon.

 

Dane Fragger is the founder of Christian Sex Ed. Ministries. Millions of believers around the world who desire to learn about dating, sex, and sexual purity view his content each month.  Christian Sex Ed: Everything You Need To Know About Sex and Purity.

Over the last couple of years, Dane has been interviewed on national television and by several highly esteemed radio stations and podcasts. He holds a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and is working towards a master’s degree in Biblical Studies. He is also a graduate of Word of Life Bible Institute. Dane has been in ministry for eight years and currently serves as a pastor on staff in Los Angeles, California, where he lives with his beautiful wife, Asia, and lovely daughters, Eliana and Elizabeth.

 

Christianity and Ancestral Worship

Since heritage day is coming up, I would like to deal with the question that seems to rise up is: Can a Christian serve Christ and still worship their forefathers? What I have found is that this brings up an ultimatum. It is either Jesus or your ancestors. You can’t worship both. You may ask why? Let’s read the Bible…

Deuteronomy 18:10-11

10“There shall not be found among you anyone who makes his son or his daughter pass through the fire, one who uses divination, one who practices witchcraft, or one who interprets omens, or a sorcerer, 11or one who casts a spell, or a medium, or a spiritist, or one who calls up the dead.

Isaiah 8:19

19When men tell you to consult the spirits of the dead and the spiritists who whisper and mutter, shouldn’t a people consult their God instead? Why consult the dead on behalf of the living?

So, since the Bible is compatible with Jesus but not compatible with ancestral worship. We can now say that there is now no commonality between them whatsoever.

Most people use the Transfiguration story to justify consulting the dead because Jesus called up Moses and Elijah. However, one must understand that Moses and Elijah did not die a natural death. Also, the disciples did not have a conversation with Moses and Elijah.

It is also vital to know what Ecclesiastes 9:5-6 says:

5For the living know they will die; but the dead do not know anything, nor have they any longer a reward, for their memory is forgotten. 6Indeed their love, their hate and their zeal have already perished, and they will no longer have a share in all that is done under the sun.

The dead doesn’t know anything. They can’t help you! It also says that they will no longer have a share in what is happening on earth. The question arises: Who are you communicating to? Are they really your forefathers? Are they really your ancestors? Or are they spirits disguising themselves as your loved ones deceiving you and drawing you away from Christ Jesus?

You cannot follow your ancestors and Jesus. They are going in two opposite directions. You can’t be in America and England at the same time. You will have to choose who you will be in. You may that it is your pride or your tradition but the Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17,

17Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come!

Unless you leave the old things, you can’t be with the new. You don’t need your forefathers to take you closer to God. We have Jesus for that. Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life. No man comes to the Father but through Him. John 14:6

In 1 Timothy 2:5; 

5For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus,

Hebrews 9:15

15Therefore Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, so that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance, now that He has died to redeem them from the transgressions committed under the first covenant.

Therefore, Jesus is the ONLY essential person that will take us to God for in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form. Colossians 2:9

Repent and turn to Christ. Put away all false gods aside and serve the true living God.

The True Gospel

Previously, I have written warnings on this blog about false gospels that have infiltrated churches. But what is the true Gospel? People don’t have a clue! So I have taken the liberty to let everyone know. You might not like it but you have to know it.

Christians do not know the depravity of a soul caused by sin. When sin entered the world, death reigned. Romans 6:23 The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life. Sin is the reason why God and His people were separated, Romans 3:23 For all have fallen short of the glory of God. So from ancient times, this chasm between God and man has have had many attempts to fill it up with good works and religion. Nothing changed until God Himself decided to fill the gap so that He could be in union with the people He loved. And this is how the Gospel story began. Jesus came down as God in the flesh and gave His life for us so that we can have eternal life. The crucifixion of Jesus Christ was the only way that we could be saved. No other way. Matthew 26:39, Jesus prayed to the Father asking if this cup could be taken from Him, yet not as He will but what the Father wanted. In other words, if there was any other way…

But there wasn’t…

He died and was buried for three days and then rose again. Understand that He died for the remission of our sins and then rose again for our justification, Romans 4:25, Because if Christ died, who would be the advocate that would plead our cause and tell the judge that someone died for us? Hence, Christ rose so that He could intercede on our behalf. He has been doing it since A.D. 30?

While we were sinners, Christ died for us, Romans 5:8. Our good works can’t get us into heaven, Romans 3:27, it is only through faith in Christ Jesus that we can receive salvation. Jesus is the only way to heaven, John 14:6. Jesus is the way, the truth and the life, that means He gives us new life. 2 Corinthians 5: 17, Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t the new always different from the old? If there is no change, then you are still old. A convert cannot be living the same way he was living before he knew Christ. The Holy Spirit will bring conviction. Hence, if someone wants to follow Christ, He must repent and believe in Christ, Acts 2:38. Repentance means to turn from your old wicked ways and strive towards holiness and live a life that pleases God, and only God…

Conviction and repentance aren’t a once of thing in the life of a Christian. It’s ongoing, God begins to trim the fat of worldliness so that we become closer and closer to His image. It isn’t easy but I can assure you that it is worth it.

But it doesn’t stop there…

You also need to go tell others about Jesus too! They also need to be saved, I mean, without Jesus, the only destination is hell…

Mark 16:15 Therefore go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation. We must go and make disciples, not sit in church every Sunday until your life is over! What does it mean to follow Christ? Do we know what it costs? I don’t think we do. We think we can just say a prayer and smooth sail into heaven. Nope. To be Christian means giving everything to God. Everything belongs to Him. Even your very life. Jesus didn’t suffer and die on the cross so that you can sit on your couch and watch Netflix. There is a calling we need to respond to.

We can’t carry on walking in darkness, we can not continue to live in sin, Romans 6:1. The Bible says in Hebrew 10:26-27, If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice of sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God.

John 14:15, If you love me, you will obey what I command. That means if you don’t do what Jesus commanded us to do, you don’t love Him!

John 14:12, I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do greater things than these because I am going to the Father. That means if we don’t do what Jesus was doing, we don’t have faith in Him! Answer this question: Does a person who does not love God and does not have faith in Jesus go to heaven?

And here is something for you to think about. I know I’m crossing the line here. Read Matthew 25:31-46. We have the sheep and the goats. The sheep were welcomed into heaven because they fed the hungry, quenched the thirsty, invited strangers in, clothed the naked, helped the sick and visited those in prison. But the goats were cast into the eternal fire because they never did what the sheep did. We need to be careful that we don’t fall into a legalistic works based doctrine here but if we worship other gods instead of Jesus then we are hellbound. Jonah 2:8, Those who cling to worthless idols forfeit the grace that could be theirs. This scripture says that if we have idols in our hearts, we can actually forfeit the grace that has been given to us. The worst idol of today is ourselves. We worship ourselves so much that we just don’t care about anyone else. Our selfishness will drag us to hell.

There will have to be a part 2 of this blog. Has to be…

Just My Thoughts…

I don’t like this world that we are living in. I don’t know if it’s just me or is there others out there? So much of brokenness around us and what are we doing? Those who complain about this sick world are probably the ones causing the problems or doing nothing about it. We live in a world that will grab a Ferrari at the expense of your bread and butter. Giving is better than taking but no one believes that anymore. We live in a society that aims high, so high that they will trample others to get there. Morals are out the window and what’s left in the room apart from chaos? We think we are good people because of what we have as if we worked for it but did we? We just acted shrewdly to obtain things without batting an eye. That’s the world we live in and sadly some people get into the rat race and they never get out of it. The rat race is when we strive to have a better lifestyle. So we get that car, we get that house, and all the luxuries that you can’t afford because it’s all on credit. Then you have a promotion and you earn more. So what do you do? Because you earn more you decide to upgrade your life. This results in you getting more in debt and you still have no money. So what has changed? Nothing! You still in the same situation, your life hasn’t improved! You still chasing money because of the debts and you still can’t sleep at night. We then compromise our morals because we are afraid of losing our jobs so we will do anything we are told to do. Hence, we are slaves…

Money has destroyed people by its existence and by its absence…

What about the Church? What are they doing? They are also in the system. Are they not? They preach promotion and money and blessings! You hardly hear about Christ and what He has done for you anymore. It’s all about what He can do for you if you pay more tithes. All those people who dress wealthily are handsomely welcomed but if a beggar came in, would they be treated Christlike? I don’t know. They probably would look down on them and think that God was punishing that person for their lack of faith. I remember being in a prosperity church when I was a kid. Everyone looked down on you as if you were a sinner. Strange enough, I probably knew the Bible more than them. I’m not boasting, they were. I remember when a man told my Dad during a meeting that the reason why he was battling financially was that he hardly spent time with God. Strange though, my Dad always had devotion every night. He attended church services religiously but that doesn’t matter, right? I would pray for God to bless me and provide all the things I needed but all I heard was my voice echoing off the ceiling and coming back to me with silence. Where you at God?

Some people treat God like He’s an ATM

‘Draw’ me close to you is what we say to Him

I stopped praying for blessings a long time ago. My good works don’t qualify for God’s grace. Yes, He provides but He gives because of His grace, not because He owes you. Not because you are a Christian. Not because you pay tithes. God is God and He is above all things. He cares for you. I learnt a lot during those times of struggle. It showed me my true friends and sadly, they are extremely few.

 

I wrote a book and wanted to publish it but I didn’t have the finances. I eventually got a job but now I don’t have time to edit it. I don’t have time to write anymore. I got a old laptop that takes long so I can’t do it when I come back from work. I write my poetry free style on the internet. I create these quotes for Instagram but that comes from my thoughts in my head. Sometimes I’m unable to write that thought down and so I forget it, never to return again. I said things to people that made them cry yet on the other side of the world someone is hating me for telling the truth. I encourage one person and then switch to someone who is debating against the Gospel. Atheists, Calvinists and people who believe that I’m too religious. Currently, 32% of my followers say that I’m too judgmental. I guess that’s what they call those who tell the truth. I write poetry for the Church and I know they not going to like it. But the day is coming when I will say what I need to say, and they will have to hear the truth.

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Enough of the past and the present. Let’s go to the future. I’ve been thinking about a lot of the One who I will be spending my life with. I haven’t met her yet and I’m starting to question her existence. It’s hard searching for something rare but it’s even harder waiting for something that you expect to be coming. Especially when the clock is ticking. Many of my friends are already married or are thinking about it. I have never dated before because I’m waiting patiently for the One. People ridicule me, I don’t care but what if she isn’t real? I want a godly woman but it’s hard to see some in my church! I guess my standards are too high or they just succumbed to the status quo of church women? Maybe I’m too religious or self-righteous but I’m not willing to compromise who I am for the sake of infatuation. I’m not saying that these women are low standard but I’m not going to be in a relationship where there is no compatibility.

“Don’t worry Kristian, you will find a nice godly woman who you will marry.”

“Thanks, but I stopped believing in fairytales a long time ago…”

I’m someone with logic. I won’t give it up for emotions. Too many people let down their morals for beauty. But I rather find beauty in someone who leads me to Christ. You would be surprised to find how many people who regret marrying who they are married to right now. They hate men/women and trash talk marriage. I don’t want to end up like that. To marry someone is to dedicate your entire life to that person so you have to make the right decision! If you are interested in someone, don’t go hitting them up over text, they can hide who they are with those emoji’s. Spend time face to face and then you will know who you are dealing with. Because if you are having a relationship over a mobile device, chances are you will one day marry that stranger!

I have to admit that I have like girls in the past. Girls that I had admired or maybe I was just infatuated with but I never pursue them because I knew I wasn’t ready. The question is: How will I know when I am?

I feel in love with someone. Or probably the illusion that I have created in my mind of who she is or will be like. Chances are, my dreams will come true or I’ll be greatly disappointed…

Book Review #2

Young and Saved: Living in a world that’s not like you – Dane Fragger

After seeing the advertisement of this book for so long, I just could not take it any longer. I had to get this book! The title captured my attention every time I saw it. Dane Fragger has really walked boldly into the dark shadows of the grey areas of Christianity. He doesn’t waste time spinning around the bush but deals with the problem at hand. What the church is failing to let the young people know, Dane spreads it out in broad daylight in this book.

If the Church does not teach the young people about sex, the world will do it for us…

Dane has had a dark past with all the mistakes he has made. He has repented and come to the truth of chastity and morality, walking in godliness and holiness. He now strives to get his message across to other young people so that they can avoid destroying themselves and their souls. His testimony is a great story that will teach many that this world is not worth it. AT ALL!

I could see that Dane did not go really in dept wit his past because it would not suitable for young readers. I appreciate that, he gives the message that the youth needs to hear. His theology is 100% and he doesn’t play with the truth.

Excellent read. To purchase Dane Fragger’s book, Click Here

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